10 Commandments Of A Godly Christian Marriage

For any marriage to work it is always a benefit to have some guidelines to define your mutual playing field. As Christians we are privy to a tremendous amount of wisdom and guidance to preside over our intimate relations.

Following is healthy set of “Thou Shalts..” along with some important “Thou Shalt NOTs…” that will keep your marriage a happy godly environment.

5 Important “Thou Shalts…”

Thou Shalt …. Arrange a Family Budget and Live Within It

One of the biggest rocks, when discussing a marriage on the rocks, is money problems. Live within the money that you can make comfortably. Don’t sacrifice stability for a expensive detail that you really can’t afford at the moment. Rather than endearing your spouse you may make them uneasy about your spending habits.

Thou Shalt …. Guard Your Heart and Mind

Protect your eyes, ears heart and mind. Men, learn to control your impulses especially when you find your attention being drawn to another woman in an inappropriate way. Ladies, there are guys out there who are gonna sweet talk you in ways your man does not. Remember your promise to love and commit even when times is hard.

Thou Shalt …. Forget the Past

It is a funny thing but true, in the heat of an argument many past actions that lay hidden in your memory are suddenly resurrected in grave detail and used as ammo against your spouse. Forget that he or she has been wrong in the past and that will give you focus to bring about peace and unity in the moment.

Thou Shalt … Love Each Other

That means a conscious decision to love each other even and especially when you feel that your spouse is especially undeserving. This is usually when they need the reassurance the most.

Thou Shalt… Put God First

What should be at the top of your priorities? Some say their relationship and their spouse takes first place, others say that the ministry itself is more important and others say it really depends what’s happening at the moment. If you put God at the top of your list and seek to be led by his voice and word than just relax and let “Jesus Take The Wheel.” He will certainly lead you to the charmed circle of his blessings and will in your lives.

5 Essential “Thou Shalt Nots”

Thou Shalt Not Carry a Grudge to Bed

The apostle Paul expresses in Ephesians 4:26 the importance of not “letting the sun go down upon your WRATH”. Be sure to keep the air clean between the two of you. For the most part, you are sure to enjoys days that are free already but when the tension strikes however be sure to agree together to resolve any differences before you share the intimacy of your bed.

Thou Shalt Not Consider this to be a 50/50 arrangement

The Bible makes the marital roles pretty clear in Ephesians 5, where it admonishes men to “love your wives…”, and all that entails. While women are required to submit to their husbands. This could not be more beautifully put, a man who truly loves his wife will engender the trust required for her to submit to his will without reservation while a woman who is submissive will inspire a furious love and from her man.

A couple in a 50/50 relationship will constantly be trying to “get even” and be looking to their spouse to see if they are giving the full 50, eventually spending more time trying to make up rather than making love, more’s the pity. When a couple realizes that the success of their marriage is their own personal responsibility, they will begin to seek out the peace and joy that happy lives are built on.

Thou Shalt Not … Ever Divulge the Intimacies of your Relationship

Don’t broadcast the particulars of your relationship with friends and co-workers. If you are going through marriage counseling it is important to be upfront and honest, but when chatting with friends at the water cooler or while getting your hair curled is not a place to seek marriage advice. Negative comments you make about your spouse will be remembered long after the problem has been solved

Thou Shalt Not … Consider Divorce an Option

Never enter a marriage thinking that you will jump ship if necessary. Regardless of the many ways to interpret the Bible’s stance on divorce, you should make a your marriage vows a promise to each other and before God to not consider divorce as an option. What kind of faith and trust do you expect to have with each other if one of you could jump ship at a moment’s notice?

Thou Shalt Not… Stop Complimenting Each Other in Word and in Deed

What is a compliment? It is that ray of sunshine that breaks through the clouds and lifts your spirits again. It is a word fitly spoken but it is also the action of building someone up to other people rather than tearing them down. Both of these examples are essential to a happy marriage…

If you are looking for some other tips that can help your Christian Marriage then the video below by Sheila Wray Gregoire may also help… We wish you a happy marriage life!