10 Tips For A First Date For Men

If you’re a man going on a first date you may wish to review these tips prior to going on your date. Don’t trust those old episodes of Friends or Seinfeld, read these tips and make your first date a success.

A first date is a time to explore the possibility of a relationship with another person. It’s important to focus on some specific details and make it a great time for both of you and for you to get to know one another. A first date is a delicate matter, it can make or break the entire relationship…

Be On Time

Remember that if you’re late, it sets a precedent for all of your future together. Show her that you’re responsible by being on time.

Even if you have to wait a few minutes for her to be completely ready, your arriving on time will make huge points with your date and her family.

Plan It Out

Find a place that she is comfortable with and that you are also comfortable with. It shouldn’t be too private, nor should it be too public.

Avoid things like a movie as a first date as you won’t be able to talk and get to know one another. Consider mini golf, a middle class type restaurant, the Country Fair etc.

Pay The Bill

Even if she offers to pay her share, pay the bill and tell her “No, I’ve got it”. This is a date after all. You asked her out, and she accepted.

If later you become a couple, you can then focus on sharing the bills if you wish, but for the first date, you need to be the one to pay the bill.

Be A Gentleman

Open the doors and close them for her. Escort her to her chair. Be attentive to her and don’t be staring off into space or looking at other women while you’re out with her.

Focus on making her feel at ease and making her feel comfortable. Don’t stare rudely at her but make eye contact and smile.

Cell Phone

Keep your cell phone on until you arrive at her house in case there are any questions about directions or in case she calls to say she’s running late. However, when you pull up to her house, shut it off and put it away.

Don’t keep your cell phone on the table or in her sight. She’ll feel like she’s not as important as whatever is going on with your cell phone.

Don’t Be Forward

You’re not a kid anymore. There is no need to be forward. Let the relationship flow accordingly and don’t stress about rushing to the next step.

If you’re rushing to the next step, you’re in too much of a hurry and you’re likely going to do some serious damage to the relationship. Don’t try to get her into bed and don’t kiss her at the end of the date.

Keep It Light

Keep the topics lighthearted. Don’t bring up the past. Don’t bring up your ex (or hers). Don’t ask questions that could lead to an argument such as politics or personal issues such as children or abortion issues.

Be Yourself

Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Just be yourself. This way, you don’t have to try to live up to expectations that will never be a reality.

If you’re pretending you’re someone you’re not, then you’re either not living in reality or you’re thinking that she wants something other than who you are. Either way, it can be seriously damaging to the date.

Ending The Date

At the end of the date, remember that you’re still being a gentleman. Even if you want to take her home to momma and marry her, you still need to step back and take your time.

Shake her hand or give her a chaste hug. Don’t try to kiss her yet. If you enjoyed your date tell her that you have a great time.

Will There Be A Second Date?

Don’t assume there will be a second date. Ask this way, “Thanks, I had a great time, May I call you tomorrow?” If she says “Yes” you will likely have a second date. However, if she says she has plans and won’t be around ask her to give you a call when she is available.

This puts the ball in her court and you won’t feel awkward. If you don’t want a second date, simply tell her this, “Thanks, I had a great time”. End it with that and don’t ask to call her.

This is a polite and thoughtful way to end it without being rude. Regardless of a second date, you did have a good time getting to know her. Dating is a way to learn more about another person and not everyone is going to be the person you’re looking for.

If you are looking for a few more tips for a first date for men then the video below can also help…

Have a great day!