How To Get Him Back After He’s Been Gone A Long Time

So you made a mistake and broke up with him, or maybe he is the one that broke up with you, either way, you want him back. However, it’s been a very long time and you’re not sure how to go about it.

In this post we will try to help you to determine if you can get him back and how to go about doing it without looking desperate.

Let’s start…

First, analyze why you want him back. Do you simply miss something that the two of you used to do together? If the answer to this question is yes, you may not really want him back. Really take some time to consider this question. Why do you want him back?

Once you’ve asked yourself that hard question, you need to ask yourself another hard question. Has something changed that would make him a better partner now than he was then? Maybe he quit drinking, stopped taking drugs or something along those lines? Or, will you be getting the same issues back just some time later?

If your questions are answered that things have changed and you miss him for more than something the two of you used to do, then proceed.

Start by sending him a message via email, text or on a social network. You need to ferret out how he is doing so you’re just going to ask a simple question, something along this line: “Hey, it’s me (insert your name here) and I was just wondering how you’re doing”. Or, you could say something about a restaurant that the two of you used to frequent such as: “Was at Our favorite restaurant with the girls the other day and thought about you, how are you doing?”.

It doesn’t have to be exactly like that, but something along those lines in your own words. You don’t want him to feel stalked or like you’re always lurking in the shadows (hopefully if that is what you’re doing, he hasn’t seen you at it).

Now comes the hard part. You have to wait. You may have to wait a few weeks. Hopefully, you only have to wait a day or so, but it can take up to two weeks for a guy to really analyze how he is feeling and what he wants. So be patient.

If you haven’t heard from him after a few weeks, likely, it’s over for good so move on. If however, he does respond you need to move very slowly.

Wait at least two days (you need to appear busy) before you reply. You could offer to meet up to catch up on things if he has the time. Again, wait, if he agrees your answer should come quickly.

Now comes the fun part. If he agrees, you need to get hot really fast. You need to look way better than he remembers you looking.

Find your cutest outfit, do your hair, do your nails if that’s your style and your makeup. You need to look so much better than he remembers that he wonders why on earth he ever dumped you.

When you meet up with him for coffee, lunch or whatever, you must play your cards right. Move slowly. Talk about what you’ve been doing with the girls or your folks or sister or something along those lines. Don’t mention any other guys.

You’ve got your foot in the door here, but you don’t want to blow it. Ask him how he is doing, tell him he looks great (he’s going to be thinking you look even greater) and keep smiling. Smile often.

If he says anything about the relationship, what went wrong etc. It’s time to tell him that you were just too young or that the relationship timing was all off and bygones are bygones. He needs to know that you forgive him and you need to be sincere.

Obviously, if you broke up, both of you had something to do with it. If you really want him back and you’re ready to try again. Be very open and honest about this. A relationship is only as good as the two of you make it.