How To Get Your Girlfriend Back If She Broke Up With You

If you’re reading this, chances are your girlfriend broke up with you and you want her back. Don’t despair, there is help. However, you’ll have to be very self-examining as to why she broke up and why you want her back.

Ask Yourself These Questions

Start by spending a few minutes thinking about why she broke up with you in the first place. You may wish to take a piece of paper and list out the reasons that she broke up with you. Perhaps she told you in no uncertain terms, or maybe she simply broke up and you’ve no real idea why. Either way, list out your perceptions of the situation.

Now that you’ve listed why you know or think she broke up with you, let’s take a few minutes and list why you want her back. Be sincere here, revenge isn’t a good reason and if that is the case, you’re better off letting her go.

Once you have the answers to these questions, you can do more about the situation. If you still want her back, think about a great time that the two of you shared together. What made it so great?

Sending A Message

Now grab your cell phone or get an email set up and tell her this…

“I was recently reminded of the time we [insert special fun time here]. I saw a cute couple and it reminded me of that time. I will always treasure that memory of us.”.

Don’t go into too much detail, you want her to remember it fondly as well. It must be a special memory that you both shared that will remind her of you in no uncertain terms. You want to provoke some thought to this. You want her to remember it fondly.

Keep your text or email short and sweet. You might end it with “Thanks for a great memory” or something along those lines.

Now, You Wait

This is perhaps the hardest part of the entire process. You don’t want to be pushy. You don’t want to appear desperate or needy.

You may have to wait a few hours to a few weeks. Be patient and keep yourself busy on other things like planning out a “reunion date”.

Ideally, she’ll respond within a few days to a few short weeks. Her response may be favorable if she remembers it as well as you do.

If it’s favorable, tell her you’re glad she enjoyed said time as well and that you’d love to get together to reminisce over coffee sometime.

You’ve now opened up a great communication line with her, but you’re not out of the woods yet. You still have to get to that “reunion date”.

Hopefully, she’ll agree that it sounds like fun. If so, plan to get together with her as soon as possible.

Reunion Date

If you’ve made it this far, you have a very good chance of winning her back. Just keep a few things in mind for that “reunion date”:

Don’t rehash the past.

Don’t bring up why she left unless it was something you did and that you’ve corrected the situation and can apologize to her (sincerely of course).

Do tell her how much you enjoy her company and hope that you can get together again soon (at the end of the date is the time for this statement).

You’ve now got your foot in the door so to speak and you’re well on your way to winning her back. Keep it light and sweet and allow the relationship time to rebuild (better than before) and heal.

The Future

If she agrees to another date, great, you’re well on your way. If not, you’ve got more work cut out for you.

Try not to let her see how downtrodden you are. Give her a smile and a hug (lightly of course) and tell her “thanks for the time today it means a lot to me. I hope we can do this again sometime”.

If she really enjoyed it, she’ll say the same. You’re going to have to play it by ear a lot to keep her interested.

You could tell her that you’ve finally taken that class you were always talking about. You could tell her something that she knows you were always interested in and see if she wants to hear about it.

You could ask her what she’s been busy doing and show some interest. The more you can get her talking the better. You want her to feel important and that you care.

If You Keep Doing The Same Thing, You’ll Get The Same Results

Be sure that you’re not going to repeat the same mistakes that put you in this position in the first place. There’s no hope in that.

Change what you need to change in order to restore and improve the relationship. A relationship takes work and you’re going to have to be willing to put forth that work if you want it back.

A relationship must be nurtured much like a healthy garden. You’re going to have to put the work into it to nurture it if you want it. The old adage, “It takes two” couldn’t be truer when it comes to a healthy relationship. You’re always going to have “weeds” to remove from your relationship. But amongst those weeds, you’ll find a healthy partnership that will stand the test of time.