The Aftermath Of Breakups: How To Make Your Ex Miss You!

Breakups can be harsh, emotionally demanding, and ultimately depressing. Regardless of who did the dumping, it’s possible that you may still have feelings for your ex. Though some may tell you getting back with someone that has left you is a bad idea, there are certain instances where you may still have a small chance of making things work the second time around. The first step is of course, getting your ex to miss you.

If he or she isn’t missing you from their life in any way, there’s not much of a chance of getting back together again. As a quick note of caution, don’t attempt these tips with the ultimate goal of getting back together in order to get revenge– things can end badly that way!

Give Your Ex Time Alone To Miss You

The old saying that says someone can’t miss you if you won’t leave is very much true in this scenario. If you’ve just broken up, it’s important to give your ex some space without you. The first step is to avoid making contact for at least two weeks (optimally one month) before sending a text or calling on the phone. Contacting your ex shortly after the big breakup sends the message that you’re needy and desperate– that’s never a good idea!

There are some instances where your ex may even feel that you’ll cave in and be the first to admit you were wrong. Don’t give in to the urge to make contact, and let your ex wait out the required time before starting up a casual chat.

The same thing is generally true even if your ex is the one to initiate first contact. He or she may just try to ease their conscience in order to avoid feeling bad or hurt. Should this scenario arise, still wait out the above mentioned few weeks before calling your ex back.

The time you spend apart should be constructive, and oftentimes, it can help to leave town and take a vacation. The odds of running into your ex are usually high, and it’s best that you don’t see each other before you’re ready to make contact again. Additionally, the time you don’t spend talking to one another should allow you to properly heal and work on your personal problems. Figure out what led to your breakup in the first place before getting in for round two.

Never under any circumstances become pushy and stalk your ex! When referring to instances of stalking, that means online and offline. There’s no reason for you to be hanging outside of your ex’s door at odd hours or spying on your ex on Facebook– it sends a message of desperation.

Give Yourself A Personal Boost

Breaking up with someone isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can give you time to focus on your personal needs a bit more and recognize your own shortcomings. Firstly, it’s okay to date, even if your ultimate goal is to get back with your ex. Dating other people means that you’re open to other relationships, and should this knowledge reach your ex, that’s even better!

Focus on your health and looking better. By giving your personality and physique a boost, your ex may start to feel bad about leaving you in the first place. That’s not to say that your relationship should be based entirely on shallow pretenses, but looking better and having a new social life is a good start.

Hang out with other people and make new friends. Having a new social circle allows you to make contact with like-minded people, and it can help take some of the sting out of your breakup. Some people even take up a new hobby in order to heal. The more interesting you become as a person, the more your ex is likely to miss your presence.

Making Contact Again

After you’ve done everything above, and you’re ready to make contact, be ready! Remind your ex of your good points by speaking warmly, smiling, and coming across as friendly. The first step should be a text as it is less formal than a phone call. Additionally, a text allows your ex to take his or her time to respond.

When sending your first text, make it count. Ensure that the message has some depth to it, and perhaps describes a past event or memory that you can directly tie into the present. If your ex seems to take the bait, and you’re ready to talk on the phone, bring up the good old days.

Talking about the past doesn’t mean you should be nagging or focus on the negatives. Pick out a few choice memories that can put your relationship in a good light. Lastly, it’s important to act like the person your ex fell for as that can help rekindle your romance.