How To Rebuild Broken Trust In A Marriage

Marriage is important and requires constant work, so just saying to someone that you love them is not enough. If you’ve been married for years, it’s important to have trust in your relationship, but sometimes, trust can be broken. The most common trust breaker is of course cheating on your partner, but there are other forms of trust breaking out there too! You could also invest poorly, have a gambling problem, or simply drink too much all while keeping it a secret.

Sure, every marriage will have its fair share of secrets, but when it affects the overall quality of your life and your relationship with your partner, things can start heading downhill fast from there. Many times, marriages can end abruptly when your partner finds out all of the things you’ve done wrong, and if you’re known for messing up, coming clean feels like an impossible task. If your marriage is still worth salvaging, what can you possibly do in order to repair the trust and rebuild your relationship?

Reasonably Come Clean

It’s important that if the truth comes out, you don’t end up denying it. For example, if you cheated on your spouse, it’s wise not to deny the full fledged allegations if they’re true. However, that doesn’t mean you need to discuss every little dirty detail that went on between you and someone else. This equation is pretty much true for any of your past transgressions, but you should know where to draw the line with the truth.

Letting everything come out can make the hurt worse, often making the chasm appear even wider between you. Tell the truth, but don’t disclose all of the hurtful details.

Show Sincerity In Your Efforts

It’s important that you don’t reassign blame and automatically explain that it wasn’t your fault. There are very few things in the world that can lead you to do things against your will, so jumping in bed with someone else is not an accident. Take the reins and up to your actions and show that you’re actually sincere about making things work.

The reality is that most people jump straight to blaming someone else for their actions, and that can make you seem weak and immature. Be an adult and know when you mess up!

What Made You Do It?

Your partner will want to do what made you do what you did. For example, if you ended up doing drugs or gambling away your retirement fund, why did you do it? Many spouses end up blaming themselves, and that can end the relationship faster than anything else. It’s important for your partner to know what went wrong and how it can be fixed.

If you’re truly serious about actually rebuilding the trust, it makes sense to get help. Whether on your own or as a couple will ultimately depend on the reason for your trust breaking.

Be Open In Your Relationship

If you’ve lied to your loved one, that means you’ve kept them in the dark and didn’t show them your contact list, your phone, or your emails. This of course automatically points out that you’ve been living a clandestine life while your spouse was open and trusting towards you. What can you do to build the trust?

Start by being an open book and leaving your things where your spouse can check them. This can be extremely hard for someone that has been secretive in the past, but it can also help show that you no longer have something to hide. Your partner will most definitely appreciate this extra step that you’ve taken and he or she will learn to trust you again a bit more in the near future.

Vow Renewals To Top The Trust

One of the best ways to show that your trust is slowly building again is by opting for a vow renewal ceremony. Most married couples that have been together for years, often opt to do this every few milestones. It can help show that you’ve overcome so many things together, and that you’re serious about spending the rest of your lives with one another.

Though vow renewals may somehow seem corny, they provide a point you want to reach with your partner. This is the ultimate last step before you can once again say that you fully trust each other with your lives, and there’s a chance that none of these negative things will ever take place again.

Keep in mind that couple’s therapy is always a good option when you’re experiencing negative things, and it can help keep your marriage fresh. Sometimes, an outer perspective on the things you do together can make a world of difference in how you live out the remainder of your days while trusting each other.

Well, we hope that this post will help you to rebuild the trust in your marriage. For few useful tips you can also check the video below by Cindy Beall…

We wish you the best!